I whitnessed a brat today for the very first time in my daughter, i was completely shocked and very upset. ok, with my husbands work schedule and my childrens school times, my husband does not get to see my kids at all during the week. saturdays and sundays are the only days he gets to spend with them and more than half the time he only gets to spend precious time with them on sundays. this fact upsets my husband and my children quite often and leaves me heart broken seeing them upset over it with nothing that i can do about it or change it. so today my husband went to the store and came back home with two small toys, a small lego set for my son who just started preschool this year, and a small mario princess figure for my daughter. he left them on the table for each of them with a sweet note for each. when we came home ryder ran to the table and was completely excited to see what daddy had gotten him, i read him the note and he was so happy. riveranne on the other side, walked over to it saw that it was a small figure and said " this is just stupid". with me already having a very stressful day and being in complete shock that those words had just come out of her mouth, i completely lost it on her. i couldnt even help it. i let her know that she was completely rude, and disrespectful for saying that when daddy had gotten her that thing because he had been missing her so very much, i also let her know that he didnt have to get her anything and that she now would not recieve this gift from him either. i called her a little brat (which maybe i shouldnt have) and told her i was extremely disapointed in her. she then became very upset herself crying, and continued to cry and apologize for about an hour and half. yet i still did not let her have the gift, i told her it would be returned to the store and that she would NEVER act that way ever again.
The reason this upset me so much and shocked me so, was because neither of my children have ever been like that ever before. they have both always been so grateful for everything they have ever gotten. when asked what they want for birthdays and christmas they will name a few things but will also tell you that they will love anything that you get them. so to hear that come out of her mouth ran all over me and i knew i need to take drastic messures to make sure that shit never happened again. i think i got the point across. She wrote her daddy a note saying she was sorry but she also realizes that just because she cried and said she was sorry that doesnt mean that she is going to get the gift back because she is not.
I know too many brat kids, more than i would ever care to know actually. i swore when i became a mother that my children would never be like that ever. i know children that get whatever they want whenever they want it, even if that means they get a new toy each time they go to the store, they are rude and disrespectful, they are not thankful for anything that they have or get and always want more and better things. dont get me wrong my kids do for the most part get everything they ever want but they only get them when it is birthdays and christmas and not on an everyday basis and they understand the reasons why. i will not ever buy my kids love. my kids know i love them because of the time i spend with them and the attention and affection i give them. too many people these days think they have to buy their childrens love which results in snotty brat kids that are so disrispectful and ungrateful and i can honestly say i cant stand being around kids like that or parents that have made their kids like that and the sad thing is more people are like this these days than not. i know for a fact that my daughter saw someone else act like that and thought she could do it, she is only 7 and im sure she was testing the water, the fact is i will not tolerate her acting like that, and i know for a FACT i have not raised her to act like that. so im completely happy to say that i am convinced that this will not happen again., and i will take all messure possible to make sure my child is not around other parents and kids that are. it is not something i want my kids subjected too.
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Saturday, August 18, 2012
falling back into things
I cant believe the most awesome summer we have ever had, has now come to an end. No more staying up super late, sleeping in, going to the pool 3 or 4 times a week, getting my tan on, being with my sister Heather and nephew Gage every single day, and being able to do alot of fun things with my friends, no school, no work, cookouts, parties with friends, days with nothing specific to do and being able to do whatever we want whenever we want. Its the end of a wonderful time. It now time to buckle down and get ourselves back in the game of going to bed on time, and getting up early, school, homework, and schedules. Riveranne is now in the second grade and even though she was not thrilled about summer break being over and having to head back to school, once she got there, met her new teacher and saw all of her friends she now says this is going to be the best year and has been completely enjoying herself. I was hoping and praying that certain events with certain idiotic people that occurred at the end of last school year wouldnt return with this school year and thankfully it will not because the people that were causing problems last year were banned from the property and no longer allowed to enroll their kids there. so sign of them and so reason for trouble this year which makes this mama very happy. I completely love that school and everyone employed there. They are a wonderful group of people that my family and i have become very close with. Ryder has not started school yet but will be starting preschool in two weeks and he is so excited to be able to go to school like sissy does. Im so happy that he is excited but im totally prepared for at least a couple of weeks of meltdowns since he has never been away from me, and i hope he does ok as well...lol. I already know that this is going to be a bit more difficult for me than it was when Riveranne went to preschool because Ryder is my last baby and Im just not ready for him to be so big. I was suppose to start school here in a few weeks as well but with some complications with my financial aid i have decided to withdraw this semester and then return again in January when i dont have so many things going on in my life. I would rather take a semester off than to struggle with my school work and chance not doing as well as i would want to.
So been super super busy doing things to get ready for Heather and corey's wedding in a little over a month and i have been having a blast. Had them a very nice mexican themed wedding shower a month ago and now we are planning Heather a fun personal bride shower here in a couple of months and then bachelorette party in Nashville planned here in a couple weeks as well. I cant believe my little sister is finally getting married, i am so happy for her and corey. They are going all out on this very special event and i cant even describe how excited i am about it all we are going to have a freakin blast. My baby sister Amy is fixing to pop. She is expecting her first baby girl here any day now and my first little niece and i just cant wait to see that precious little thing. I have been having some major baby fever for a while now and with the sad truth that jason and i cant have anymore kids i am ready to feed my fever and get my hands on that sweet baby girl. And then my step sister christy is expecting her second son come october which is already an awesome month being mine and ryders birthday month. all these babies coming, im not gonna know what to do with myself. Im so excited for my family and all the wonderful blessing we are getting this year.
Excitement has been around every corner, some good and some bad. Earlier this week, i decided i would keep Gage all night so the kids could have one more night together and day at the pool before school started. After putting the kids to bed i went to step outside to smoke, it was dark, and all of a sudden i heard someone running down the steps on my porch, i took one step out the door and saw a man jumping my fence. I was so stunned by it i just stepped back in the house, locked the door, and called the police and my daddy. My daddy arrived first and searched my yard finding nothing, a good 15 minutes later the police finally arrived and also checked everything out and found nothing. They said they would patrol over here a little extra for the rest of the week and that was it. Thank God whoever it was ran off because if he had actually been trying to come in i would have had no choice but to shoot him because the police were in no hurry to get here and check it out. So now im a bit paranoid because after the fact i realized that my blinds had been open and there is no telling how long the guy had been on my porch looking in at me and the kids. Freaky very freaky...no needless to say i am locked and loaded and ready for whatever mind jump loose over here. I mean we lived at our other house for over 9 years, 3 of those our neighbor was a very well known drug dealer and nothing like this ever happened over there, i wasnt ever even worried at all, but now we have moved to an old, very quiet neighborhood and jasons car was broke into and everything stolen and now this, what the crap...kinda feel like we are being targeted or something but im not sure who it would be, i have several enemies so there really is no telling. Luckily everyone is ok and i promise i will do everything i can to make sure it stays that way. im a tough bitch!!! and thankfully i have such awesome guy friends (Ced and Mitch) that live near by that have both called to check on us and ensure me that all i had to do was give them a call and they would be here to have my back, sure makes me feel good since my lovely husband works second shift and cant be here at times.
If you know me and my kids you know that i have some of the funniest kids around, they just say the craziest things sometimes, and often take me, who is not effected by much, completely by shock. If you are a friend of mine on facebook you get the pleasure of reading about some of the things they say and do because i find it completely necessary to share those things that i find hysterical. Just yesterday my three year old son thought he would share with me that his balls were sweating and my three year old nephew told me just two days ago that he loved me and called me "BIGUN". I cant help but laugh at them when they do these things even if i know i should turn into appropriate mom and let them know those are not nice things to say, i just cant help it. I probably doesnt help that i dont have any kind of filter myself. i can be very real, crude, rude, and ever vulgar on a daily basis. i think it makes me hilarious and awesome and most other people do as well, however i do tend to rub some people the wrong way at times but hey thats me and i love me. and i totally love the fact that my kids including my nephew are going to be just like me.
I can honestly say that i have never been one to have a ton of friends, i just never have, im not sure why really but within the last year i have realized that i have a ton of awesome friends. Our car club friends are really more like family, we completely love being around them and we would all do anything for one another and that feeling is so awesome. I have really became close with big sexys wifey jodie, we are so much alike and we have a freakin blast when we are together, we can talk about anything to each other and we really cut up and i love it and i completely appreciate her friendship. and then there is Terrie, i completely love this woman, she amazes me with everything she does, she is super mom. with 6 gorgeous, very well behaved kids, she also goes to school and works. I have really enjoyed hanging out with her this summer even though we havent been able to as much as i would have liked. she is hilarious and we always have a good laugh when we are together and i completely appreciate her friendship as well. No one can touch my chunky dunk, i am beyond thrilled that she now back with me and she better not ever move away again. She is by far my very best friend (beside my sister) and i love being with her and her family. our kids love each other and we are just all around one big happy family. i love her to pieces and i could never express what her friendship has meant to me all these years. I also love the fact that i have made new friends because of jenn, like amanda who i also think is awesome. i am beyond blessed to have such awesome friends right now in my life, its something that i have missed for so long and never even realized it until these awesome ladies came into my life. I love you all so much. what more could a girl ask for, an awesome family and friends. Thats what makes the world go around. so all in all im ready to fall back into the swing of this thing called life. bring it on!!!
So been super super busy doing things to get ready for Heather and corey's wedding in a little over a month and i have been having a blast. Had them a very nice mexican themed wedding shower a month ago and now we are planning Heather a fun personal bride shower here in a couple of months and then bachelorette party in Nashville planned here in a couple weeks as well. I cant believe my little sister is finally getting married, i am so happy for her and corey. They are going all out on this very special event and i cant even describe how excited i am about it all we are going to have a freakin blast. My baby sister Amy is fixing to pop. She is expecting her first baby girl here any day now and my first little niece and i just cant wait to see that precious little thing. I have been having some major baby fever for a while now and with the sad truth that jason and i cant have anymore kids i am ready to feed my fever and get my hands on that sweet baby girl. And then my step sister christy is expecting her second son come october which is already an awesome month being mine and ryders birthday month. all these babies coming, im not gonna know what to do with myself. Im so excited for my family and all the wonderful blessing we are getting this year.
Excitement has been around every corner, some good and some bad. Earlier this week, i decided i would keep Gage all night so the kids could have one more night together and day at the pool before school started. After putting the kids to bed i went to step outside to smoke, it was dark, and all of a sudden i heard someone running down the steps on my porch, i took one step out the door and saw a man jumping my fence. I was so stunned by it i just stepped back in the house, locked the door, and called the police and my daddy. My daddy arrived first and searched my yard finding nothing, a good 15 minutes later the police finally arrived and also checked everything out and found nothing. They said they would patrol over here a little extra for the rest of the week and that was it. Thank God whoever it was ran off because if he had actually been trying to come in i would have had no choice but to shoot him because the police were in no hurry to get here and check it out. So now im a bit paranoid because after the fact i realized that my blinds had been open and there is no telling how long the guy had been on my porch looking in at me and the kids. Freaky very freaky...no needless to say i am locked and loaded and ready for whatever mind jump loose over here. I mean we lived at our other house for over 9 years, 3 of those our neighbor was a very well known drug dealer and nothing like this ever happened over there, i wasnt ever even worried at all, but now we have moved to an old, very quiet neighborhood and jasons car was broke into and everything stolen and now this, what the crap...kinda feel like we are being targeted or something but im not sure who it would be, i have several enemies so there really is no telling. Luckily everyone is ok and i promise i will do everything i can to make sure it stays that way. im a tough bitch!!! and thankfully i have such awesome guy friends (Ced and Mitch) that live near by that have both called to check on us and ensure me that all i had to do was give them a call and they would be here to have my back, sure makes me feel good since my lovely husband works second shift and cant be here at times.
If you know me and my kids you know that i have some of the funniest kids around, they just say the craziest things sometimes, and often take me, who is not effected by much, completely by shock. If you are a friend of mine on facebook you get the pleasure of reading about some of the things they say and do because i find it completely necessary to share those things that i find hysterical. Just yesterday my three year old son thought he would share with me that his balls were sweating and my three year old nephew told me just two days ago that he loved me and called me "BIGUN". I cant help but laugh at them when they do these things even if i know i should turn into appropriate mom and let them know those are not nice things to say, i just cant help it. I probably doesnt help that i dont have any kind of filter myself. i can be very real, crude, rude, and ever vulgar on a daily basis. i think it makes me hilarious and awesome and most other people do as well, however i do tend to rub some people the wrong way at times but hey thats me and i love me. and i totally love the fact that my kids including my nephew are going to be just like me.
I can honestly say that i have never been one to have a ton of friends, i just never have, im not sure why really but within the last year i have realized that i have a ton of awesome friends. Our car club friends are really more like family, we completely love being around them and we would all do anything for one another and that feeling is so awesome. I have really became close with big sexys wifey jodie, we are so much alike and we have a freakin blast when we are together, we can talk about anything to each other and we really cut up and i love it and i completely appreciate her friendship. and then there is Terrie, i completely love this woman, she amazes me with everything she does, she is super mom. with 6 gorgeous, very well behaved kids, she also goes to school and works. I have really enjoyed hanging out with her this summer even though we havent been able to as much as i would have liked. she is hilarious and we always have a good laugh when we are together and i completely appreciate her friendship as well. No one can touch my chunky dunk, i am beyond thrilled that she now back with me and she better not ever move away again. She is by far my very best friend (beside my sister) and i love being with her and her family. our kids love each other and we are just all around one big happy family. i love her to pieces and i could never express what her friendship has meant to me all these years. I also love the fact that i have made new friends because of jenn, like amanda who i also think is awesome. i am beyond blessed to have such awesome friends right now in my life, its something that i have missed for so long and never even realized it until these awesome ladies came into my life. I love you all so much. what more could a girl ask for, an awesome family and friends. Thats what makes the world go around. so all in all im ready to fall back into the swing of this thing called life. bring it on!!!